What does the ‘mother of the bride’ do?

What are the duties of the ‘mother of the bride’? What role does the ‘mother of the bride’ take?

A ‘mother of the bride’ fills basically the same role as the maid of Honor plus a little extra. Whether your biological mother, Step mother, Gran mother, close aunt or any other close motherly figure; she should be there for you throughout your new marriage experience not only regarding the wedding planning but with regard to marriage life as well.

The duties of the ‘mother of the bride’ vary according to what your needs are. The role of the ‘mother of the bride’ is to ensure that everything is planned ahead and well structured. The ‘mother of the bride’ has as an advantage over the rest of the bridal party (including the maid of Honor) the fact that she’s likely to have been married before or been around a lot of people who have. She’s basically got hands on experience. Little things that you and your maid of Honor may not notice or may not think about she is likely to pick up. If you don’t have a wedding planner it’s crucial that you get someone like your mother or your fiancé’s to help out with overseeing the whole wedding so that you don’t miss anything and in order to alleviate some of the stress regarding the planning.

The ‘mother of the bride’ should oversee everything:

-      Finer details regarding the wedding planning

-      Advice regarding everything (the venue, cake, wedding dress, etc.)

-      Minor or major tasks – flower, cake, venue, etc. depending on what you’re comfortable with handing over

-      Marriage advice and minor counselling after the wedding and throughout your marriage if needed.

The tasks of the ‘mother of the bride’ vary according to what you feel comfortable with. It often happens that the ‘mother of the bride’ ‘takes over’ the whole wedding running everything the way she would have wanted it if it were her wedding. It’s your big day not your mothers. Make sure she doesn’t take over by leading the process and allowing her to be in an advisory role. It’s all about you and your fiancé.